So I’ve always wondered how people say “never again” and 2 months later they are back where they said wouldnt be. The fact of falling in the same hole makes a lot of sense when you come to analize the characteristics of this certain people.
For starters, where did all the grown up-ity go? If once you decide not to cross that path again then, whats the reason to go back? = not really get over stuff as they claim they have.
Then the hating, how come you in seconds get to hate what you loved doing or being for a long time in the past, without a reason? = growing up and letting go.
About the letting go part, people say its stupid to let go what you love, but when you stop loving is exactly when you let go, in the meantime you are just putting that what you love aside, period.
Back to the essence of this post, the blackmailing/stalking/bullying who you left/left you, there is absolutely no reason to hunt back the past in any way if you are determined to move on as you claim.
Then what I wanted to talk about: Determination.
Its measured by the ones who see your actions and way of living, listen/know your excuses, ideas, goals and hopes to a better future. In your mind is just another way to improve yourself and move along with the world in life.
Therefore, stop being childish and decide what’s fair for you and your sorroundings, if you are not sure that is fair then back down. If you mess up, its part of life, learn from it and keep moving, accept the defeat and look for other challenges because if you focus on your mistakes there’s no way around more than mending it and moving on.